One of the most common questions I get from men and women in my coaching sessions is about how to bring desire back to the bedroom when it has faded or how to extend the quality of sex life in a new, young relationship. It seems that we all dream about experiencing passionate desire with our loved one forever. When the intensity wanes or the newness is gone, we wish to feel that same sexual craving again.
“Key parties” like the one depicted in the film The Ice Storm (1997) where swinging couples gather together and the women pull a set of car keys out of a bowl to find out which man they’ll be leaving with, have long been associated with swingers.
Over the Christmas Holidays, I decided to travel to my second home, Germany and visit my friends and family. When I lived there, one of my weekly hobbies was visiting a German FKK Spa.
Over the past several years, emotional infidelity has been the focus of self-help and academic books, and has become a buzzword in discussions of relationships in the workplace and elsewhere.
There are many physical activities that can increase couple’s level of sexual intimacy.
Shower, pilates or acro yoga? Both the nudity and seeing your body active might turn you both on!
In a study I conducted with John DeLamater (U-WI, Madison), we surveyed monogamous couples, couples where one or both spouses had secret or nonconsensual outside sexual relationships (‘secret cheaters’), and couples with consensually nonmonogamous relationships (polyamorists, swingers, and those with ‘open’ relationships).
I have always enjoyed talking openly about sex and sexuality. For many of us, the subject is still taboo, but we need to discuss it to have a healthy sex life and for overall well-being. Lack of communication between couples causes many issues and even break ups.
BDSM (bondage-discipline, dominance-submission, sadism-masochism).
Working as a professional dominatrix has taught me a lot about BDSM. Over the years, though, I’ve noticed numerous misconceptions about kink and BDSM in pop culture. Here are the most common once.
Could marriage (or commitment) be reinvented as hearty enough to be able to tolerate uncertainty, risk, and adventure—and, in addition, the “aliveness” of both partners?
I could provide many more examples of experiences of “aliveness” after infidelity from interviewees, my own and those of other researchers or therapists, from film, literature, anecdotes and stories. Such experiences take on added layers of meaning in a social context characterized by doubt about whether our relationships will last forever.