What is the difference between coaching and therapy?
A life coach can help you make behavioral and emotional changes in your life. Coaches work with you to improve any area of your life by clarifying your desires and developing strategies to accomplish your goals. We may discuss your experiences in a session with this aim in mind, but we do not continually revisit the past. Our focus is on the present and the future. Coaches are not health-care professionals, do not prescribe medicine, and do not diagnose or treat mental illnesses. Coaching can be helpful along with therapy, but is not meant to replace it.
What is sex coaching?
Although our overall approach is integrative, we both specialize in sexuality. A sex coach can help with many different things: becoming comfortable with your body; finding and strengthening intimate relationships; communicating your sexual needs and desires to a partner; developing an understanding of fetishes or kinks; learning practical skills or techniques to safely enhance your sex life; overcoming shame or fear that prevents you from enjoying sex; setting boundaries; discovering new erotic pathways; making connections in alternative sexual communities, etc. Sex coaching is not a form of sex work. We can discuss sexual techniques, but do not do physical body work with our clients. Some sexual issues may require you to seek medical attention in addition to your coaching sessions.
If I want to talk about my relationship, should I book a coaching session alone or with my partner?
You can schedule a coaching session by yourself, with your partner, or both. We are also happy to work with you each individually. We understand that there are times when you may not have been completely forthcoming with your partner about an aspect of your sexuality—in fact, that is one of the reasons that some people seek coaching! However, to get the most out of your coaching experience, we suggest raising this issue with us as soon as possible in the process so that we can decide if a joint coaching session is feasible.
How many coaching sessions do I need?
The number of coaching sessions that you will need depends on many things, including the complexity of the problem that you would like to address. Many issues are not solved in a single session; however, you may find that you just need a nudge in the right direction from time to time. Some clients enjoy coaching regularly even if they are not dealing with a pressing issue, as it helps them stay aligned with their goals and in communication with their loved ones. We can help you decide on the right package.
How close together should I schedule my coaching sessions?
Just as the number of sessions you’ll want can vary, so can the frequency. Some clients will book several sessions in a row if they are preparing for an important event or life change. Other clients enjoy having a monthly appointment to stay on track. And still other clients will need to space out their sessions based on the time of the year or their other commitments. We are are happy to work with you to develop the schedule that works best for you.
What does “double coaching” mean?
As we both have different personal and career histories, we also often bring slightly different perspectives to bear on a client’s concerns. Sometimes, the mix is beneficial for a brainstorming session, or just to get several opinions on how to proceed with an issue. Having a third person step into a session can also highlight some of the dynamics that come into play in a longer-term coaching relationship. We have found that double coaching can also be beneficial sometimes for couples.